Combating Fears and Standing up for Yourself

Today's blog post describes a coaching method you can use to help you face and deal with the fears you might have about challenging yourself and someone else when requesting a change in the way another person behaves toward you.

Fear can create paralysis, but when combating fears or standing up for ourselves is basic: Insecurity. From time to time, we all face this issue at some point in our lives, but running from insecure feelings is not the answer. We must face them confidently and boldly. Often times we find ourselves over-reacting and as a result, we are left dealing with feelings of regret, which are often based on "preconceived notions" we have conjured up. If we’re not careful, we become convinced that the way we feel, or think, is true; when in fact, they are not if we were completely honest with ourselves. Simply put, we need to take the proper time to think through things properly or bounce it off a trustworthy friend. Whether our notions are legit or not, we can unknowing sabotage or worsen our fears simply by nurture the “stink'n think'n” thought patterns. Taking the time to find a remedial solution and knowing how you will react regardless of the other person's reaction, is very important. All too often, we are afraid of what people might think and worse, how they might react. By human design, I think it's fair to say, "we do not like conflict. Why? Because were afraid of being wrong, owning up to the that wrong, and worse: rejected. However, one of greatest ways to overcome fear is by increasing your knowledge and being receptive to hear what the other person has to say.

Knowing who you are is essential. Become confident with who you are as a person, know your personal limits, and having moral principles that govern your life is key to overcoming fears. Be a proactive and purposefully person to create a life-style that helps combat fears in any situation. Developing healthy thought patterns based on consistent self-reflections, moral checks, and editing what we say are predecessors to being successful. Conflicts are inevitable in this life, but being well prepared about the matter is very helpful. Learn to stand up for your rights in a respectful manner, speak your heart, and stand your ground when the circumstances demand for it.

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